“You’d better smile, smile, smile, smile, smile, smile, smile, smile, smile, smile, smile, smile, smile, smile, smile, smile” ~ The Supernaturals
Or, as defined by my dictionary
Smile (n): a facial expression in which the corners of the mouth are turned up, showing amusement or friendliness
I was raised to count to look on the bright side of things, to be grateful for what I had, to count my blessings. The fact I write so many blogs about things that make me happy I believe this testament to this outlook, especially a lot of those were written at times when I was desperately low but still searching for something to lift me up.
There are schools of thought that state that smiling can make you feel better. I happen to agree with this. If I smile, even when I am feeling down, it makes me feel better. That’s not the same thing as putting a brave face on things when life is really bad or to use it as a mask for depression – those feelings are important and should always be acknowledged. More pain and heartache almost always comes from keeping something suppressed.
However, a bit of ‘count your blessings’ mentality is also healthy. Whatever your problems are, they are problematic to you, whether others have it better or worse. I have no truck with grief competitions. But, equally, there will be blessings you can count, things you can be grateful for, small items of beauty in every day life that can catch your eye and are worth smiling about. And especially when you are a little down but ok really. Smiling, finding something of good cheer, is much more enjoyable than wallowing in negatvity.